What is wrong with this woman?

So my hubby just got a demanding letter from his ex wife.  They have a daughter together, she's about 8 now that he hasn't seen since she was 1 and is now DEMANDING that he pay the child support by the first of the month.  #1 They have no DNA test to prove that the child is his (she was cheating on him at the time). #2 She took this child to Guam when she was 1 and he hasn't seen her since then, and #3 what the hell????

I told him that I would approach this nicely and tell her that she is in no position to demand anything because the agreement they had was that she would send pictures as long as you were sending the money, she hasn't.  The original agreement that is through the courts is that she was going to go to Guam, her birthplace and where her parents live, and finish her schooling and then she was to come back to the states so he could at least see his daughter.  This was a stipulation through the court. I also told him that if we have to I think we should take her for the time being while this woman gets her head straight. 

It is so frustrating to see this man get beaten down by this and not be able to do anything, but offer advice.

Me and the 36 yr old boy

I am sure a million other women are going through this, but I don't understand how a man can play video games ALL WEEKEND LONG!  I mean he's an adult for goodness sake.  Then he wonders why I am getting upset when I actually want 10 minutes of his time!  On top of that the new Call of Duty game came out Tuesday and then he was at it again.  He thinks I have no right to be upset, but I told him that it is eating away at the time we should be spending together working on the relationship.  Men what the heck is wrong with them...

Wishing more would help

It has come to my attention from a few people going through this here in the state of Arizona that our justice system is failing miserably when it comes to protecting the children from child abuse.  My son's girlfriend is in an abusive family at the moment.  Her grandmother called the local sherriff's office to investigate and her stepfather bs'd his way out of the situation.  The sad part is that her mother is so afraid of losing this man that she agreed with whatever he was saying just to keep her man.  This little girl (she's 15) has been going through this off and on since she was 2. Her mother has been with this man for 13 years and just acts like its another day when this happens.  I advised her to go to the school officials and get as many people involved as possible because it will never end unless he is shown that it is not ok to do this. I hope that her getting the authorities involved will help her now.  She is such a beautiful child and doesn't deserve that life.

I have experienced abuse like this first hand in my early twenties with my first husband.  I was lucky enough to get the wake-up call after being in a drug-induced coma for two weeks.  Even now 10 years later it brings tears to my eyes knowing that I could have left my three beautiful children motherless because I thought I could "change" him.  He is still a drug abuser now and has beat up his own mother as well as every other girlfriend he has had since then.  I feel sorry for him, but I am glad I left that situation and have a restraining order against him.  It took me a long time to forgive him for what he did, but I forgave him for me not him.  I didn't want to carry that hate in me anymore because I knew if I didn't get rid of it I would never be able to have a healthy relationship with anyone.  I hope my opening up this way helps others to know that you can leave even if you are young, the sole provider and have children.  I raised these three on my own for a long time and they are all loving, helpful individuals.  You just have to show them love and they pass it on in their lives outside the home.

Blech!

It is that time of year again when the flu season hits and the annoying Christmas music plays WAY too early.  Don't get me wrong I used to love Christmas music, just not anymore.  People have taken the holidays way out of context and it makes me sad around the holidays now.  It seems to me that they have made it too commercialized and I just don't like the holidays anymore because of it.  I hear people talking about what they are going to get their relatives to out buy the next one and I just want it to be the way it was when I was at home and the family got together for the holidays and nobody really cared what the presents were because the family togetherness part was more important.  I miss those days...

When family visits

I got a good surprise a couple of weeks ago as you can see from the new picture.  With the exception of the black man and the boy, third from the left, the rest is family from germany.  I have not seen these people since I was in my teens and was very happy that they had come to visit me here in Arizona after a whirlwind road trip through three states with my mother and aunt.  Now I just need to have some kind of fund raiser to pay the 10,000 for all of us to go see them now.

Facebook

I have been grateful for facebook lately.  I have connected with so many of my old high school friends.  I have found out that some haven't made it this far and some have made great strides in their lives.  This medium has given me a better connection than myspace and I am glad that I stumbled upon it.  Even though we are all pretty far apart as far as geographical location we can still share the happenings of our daily lives and get great advice from old friends as well.  Just thought I would share a little more about me. 

Also, I don't usually do this, but the holidays are coming up and I would like to promote my electronics site.  Check it out, if you like something order, if not please pass it on so someone else could possibly order.  I believe in paying it forward so if someone helps me I pass it on.

www.lextechs.com

Wondering why?

I was listening to the radio this morning and a woman on there was talking about her husband and how he had come home and told her that he went to lunch with an old girlfriend and they kissed.  When asked what her response was she said I just went into the other room and cried.  I am wondering why she didn't confront him on this?  This radio segment was called war of the roses and they pose as a florist to try to trap the other person into admitting the adultery.  He admitted it by "sending" the roses to the other woman with a message saying "I will never lose you again".  No I don't condone any type of cheating whatsoever. Whether it be online chatting with other people, which is emotional cheating, or physical cheating by actually having sex with someone else, but what did she expect when she didn't show him that she dissapproved of it in the first place?  To me she gave him the green light. In my experience men want everything layed out in front of them and not subtle hints here and there.  I don't know if he would have stopped if she confronted him, but at least he would have known that she was not okay with it.

Craziness

So many things have happened since I have been on here last. My CFS kicked into high gear and I have been an emotional mess.  I am so glad to have a partner that is totally amazing and at least tries to help when he knows I can't control the emotions.  It really sucks having this disease and I would never wish it on anyone.  I let him have his video game time and he gives me one date day a month, so it works out.  He also has been asking me if I need anything everyday, and I feel bad because I know he feels bad for not being able to help more.  I have gone back to school to finish my accounting degree and also dropped my job down to part-time so I can take care of me.  This puts more burden on him for the bills, but he understands that after taking care of three kids, who are now teenagers, I need some time to just relax and take care of me.  Thanks for reading!